On Thursday afternoon he'd snuck out the door between incoming kids and hopped in the van again to snack on the snack crumbs, forever coating its floor and seat-pockets. "ANGUS!" I'd stormed, as always, dragging him out. "Get out of there, boy! Come on!" But that night my husband noticed that the limp he'd picked up earlier in the week (at 11, his farm-running exploits taxed him more now) was worse. The leg was swelling up. We agreed we'd call the vet in the morning. By the time his Friday 4:30 appointment rolled around, Angus was decidedly not himself. He was loungey and subdued, not wanting to get up off his mat. Even when food was available to him within easy reach (unheard of!). Even when the doorbell rang for UPS, he barked but didn't get up. The vet confirmed a fever, suspected a tick-borne illness, sent us home with meds. But Saturday morning he wouldn't eat or drink- and he could barely stand up- so we brought him back in. They'd keep him overnight to get fluids into him and try to figure out what was going on. Sunday evening at 8:30 we got the call. He'd been improving - eating, drinking, perking up - but when they went in in the early afternoon to check him, they found he'd died in his sleep. The shock, even though we'd known this was possible, was intense. Three days ago he'd been fine. How could this…? We wept, my husband and I, in...Read More →
Adoption. We've been thinking about it forever, my husband and I. We've always wanted to do it, and always thought we'd do it… at some point. We know that God's profoundly committed to the most defenseless and vulnerable - the " Read More →
"Mom, what's the s-word?" It comes so innocently; no mischief, no fanfare. She's sitting working on her phonics, a page of "s-blends" images before her - snail; shirt; slow. It's the most natural place in the world for this thought to crop up in her six-year-old.Read More →
Dear Wardrobe, You've been a faithful friend all these years, charting the journey with me from college trends through working girl to baby years. We've had some good times together-- the Tevas, the capri pants, the cowboy boots, hoodies and jeans, attire for endless weddings..Read More →
Move much? I did, when I was a kid - every few years through elementary school. My dad worked for an international company, and by the time I was ten I had moved four times. I loved it and looking back on it, I'm.Read More →
Our oldest kid's in second grade, and we've "done school" lots of ways since he started kindergarten. We've homeschooled full-time. We've homeschooled through a charter school's homeschool program - 2 days there, 3 days home. We've done public school. And right now we're in.Read More →
In my last post about kids and anger, I quoted juxtaposing views from two Christian parenting authors on the best way to address anger in kids. Camp One is the "feelings-can-and-must-be-managed-and-adjusted camp," and Camp Two is the "anger-is-normal-and-shouldn’t-be-suppressed camp." I benefited from.Read More →
Topic of the day: kids and anger. Really it's more a question than a topic, and it's this: how should we handle anger when it arises in our children? And behind that one, this: how should we be thinking about anger in children? There are.Read More →
At the start of our mother-and-fatherhood, we went with the flow - and the culture - in how we trained our kids. We requested instead of directing; we tiptoed around temper tantrums; we offered two choices and allowed them to pick one. Unconscious decisions,.Read More →
Among the top three parenting annoyances: tattling. Wouldn't you agree? Some days it's the #1. And the subjects for tattling can sometimes boggle the mind. You know the type...
- "Mom, she looked at me with a funny eyes."
- "Mom, he put my shoes under the bed when I. Read More →
For a long time now, our home life has felt a bit like I'm at the bottom of a body of water, looking up. Through the plant life and the murk, I can make out shapes and see through toward the surface and the.Read More →
Today I'm over at Passionate Purposeful Parenting posting on responding to persistent challenges in parenting. The challenge that prompted it? "Recently our five-year-old daughter has begun responding with oversensitivity and meltdowns whenever she’s crossed or cor rected. She falls into long-lasting.Read More →